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Some more you may like to know about Filipinos tradition, culture and behavior to make you understand them and their way of life some better. Enjoy the text.

Does and Don'ts

Shop What is “pasalubong?” It is a travel gift. In other words, if you travel from a far away place or you happen to work  in other country like Hong Kong, USA, Europe or Canada to name a few as an OFW, and you come back home here in the Philippines you are buying things that you think you can give to your family and friends. It is a gift from you to your close friends and relatives. Some of the Filipino family is expecting a "pasalubong" from relatives who is arriving from working in other country for 2 years or more. But most family, the "pasalubong" is just a secondary thing. We are happy to see you again, and you arrive home safe.  Chocolates, clothes, jewelry (watch), bags, perfume and soap, wine and cigarette is considered as "pasalubong".

A pasalubong don't need to be wrapped but if you have the possibility, you can do it. If you are about to go back in Philippines you will find at every airport a special shop to buy pasalubong for your loved ones at home.

Some Does or "good behavior"
If you are interested in a Pinay, a Filipino woman, ask the parents at first for their permission to meet with her together.

And in marrying a Filipina, a man should be a good provider to his woman. You need to take care her, like her family do to her. You need to be a good husband to her, and to be a good father to your child later.

Remove your shoes before entering a Filipino home.

A handshake, with a welcoming smile, is the standard greeting.

If you are invited to a Filipino home for dinner, bring some sweets or any little gift to the host.

Respect for elders is very important. This is still very much alive even in modern times.

When leaving be sure to personally extend good wishes to the elders of the household and express your appreciation to everyone.

Some Don'ts or "bad behavior"
Avoid speak so loud because the olds didn't like a noise.

Be clean, pleasant, quiet and respectful.

Don't even try to say negative things about the Catholic Church for they need respect.

If you think that someone do you things that you don't like and there is a chance to tell them what you feel, please avoid being so frank or directly, this to prevent  argument with the other ones.

Strong words are avoided and we don't need a 3rd party to let a certain people know what we wanted to let him know. You can do it by yourself in a nice way, let them know what you feel and let them understand that you also have feelings and you get hurt. Filipinos will understand because we are raised to please, serve and not hurt other peoples feeling.

We believe in words like this: If you have nothing good to say... be quiet.

Some about our way of life
Arriving at a Filipino house during mealtime, you will be ask to sit down and share with them whatever they have in the table. Always accept an invitation to eat no matter how many times you have already eaten that day. Eating alone without asking the people near you is considered rude. This is how a Filipino accept and respect a visitors and it comes truly from the heart like the smile they are giving with every people they met. Filipino's are being known also for being sensitive to other feelings.

Help to clear the table and do the dishes unless your hosts insist otherwise. They probably won't accept your offer to help, but it will be considered favorable if you make the gesture.

Filipinos might interpret a decline of their food as a personal offense. Many Filipinos live in poor conditions, so when they offer their food, they are essentially conveying that you are worth the trouble. By refusing their offer, you are refusing their hospitality.

Kids or the younger ones will pay respect to the elders with the "mano" gesture and address them with a greeting. Mano is a gesture in which they lift an elder's hand to their forehead.

Bahala na is a Filipino attitude loosely translated into English as "fatalistic passiveness", actually describes the Filipino way of life, in which, he/she is determined to do his/her best.

Filipinos are immune to hardship caused by natural calamities. The tougher the challenge, the tougher the Filipinos are and they indeed survived.

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